“Travelling is like flirting with life. It’s like saying, ‘I would stay and love you, but I have to go; this is my station.” ― Lisa St. Aubin de Terán
“Certainly, travel is more than the seeing of sights; it is a change that goes on, deep and permanent, in the ideas of the living.” ― Mary Ritter Beard
My Man and I decided to take a vacation to Phoenix, Arizona with the kiddos to spend time in the sunshine under the palm trees and saguaro cactuses. I thought it would be fun to bring clothes and makeup created by Designers in Winnipeg to show off some Canadian talent in the Valley of The Sun. I brought custom denim jeans by Lennard Taylor, bathing suits, cover-ups and tops by Gracetta Fashion Designs and makeup by Dandizette Cosmetics. It’s amazing how a change of landscape and scenery can fire up your creativity and inspire something new in you to come to the surface.
So what is that “thing” a vacation does to us? What happens to us when we’re on holidays? Why do some of us crave travel and others don’t? What is it we are after really? We can argue the position that all of us who crave a getaway are doing just that! Trying to get away from some boring or mundane life. You know the quotes, “Choose a life you don’t need a vacation from”, or “It’s not Monday that sucks, it’s your job!” Or maybe it’s not as simple and black and white as all that. Maybe a holiday is a huge opportunity for personal growth. Maybe we sense stagnation in our daily routines and it’s actually a biological need to shake things up so we continue to change and grow as humans. I don’t know about you, but I definitely change and grow every time I step outside of my daily routine, and a vacation is a short but intense opportunity to do that. I don’t think that anyone can deny the value and enrichment that comes from travelling, but what about a week long poolside or beach holiday? It’s light on culture and effort, but what does it offer?
In my experience, a vacation is an opportunity to live like you would if the world as you know it was going to end. It’s an opportunity to live bigger, fuller and free-er. It’s a chance to totally be present in each moment and to suck the marrow out of life. It’s an opportunity to do whatever you want to do from moment to moment without a routine or agenda. A holiday let’s you experience true freedom and the joy of spending your time almost completely on the “want to’s” instead of the “have to’s”. It shows us the potential of what our lives could be more like, if we were brave enough to take more chances and worry less. There is something incredibly liberating and freeing in making decisions from moment to moment based solely on how you feel, instead of always worrying about the perceived consequences like we do when we are home in our “real” life. On vacation, you spend more money, you have one more cocktail, you stay up too late, you introduce yourself to strangers, you watch the sun set and rise, you say YES more, you stop to smell the flowers and take a picture, you order dessert, you flirt, you feel a little sexier, you take a longer shower, you eat dinner at 9:00 p.m., you have long meaningful conversations about the meaning of it all, you live it up, and then you hit your pillow totally exhausted and completely satisfied. Wouldn’t life be absolute magic if it could always be like that?! Well, maybe it can’t be exactly like that. You still have to take out the garbage, do your job and pay your taxes. But maybe it can be a lot more like that than it currently is! Maybe, just maybe, we place endless limits and restrictions on ourselves unnecessarily that directly impacts the level of joy we experience in our lives. Why can’t we let loose and live a little more a little more often? Just humour me, and think about all the times you felt most alive and happy in your life. If you are like me, then those times were the ones when you were taking a chance, or blissfully neglecting something you “should” be doing. They are the times when you throw caution to the wind and break a few of your own rules. Think about the you that you were when you were falling in love, reading a sexy book for fun on the beach, trying something scary for the first time like taking a road trip alone, or sky-diving, or performing or speaking to an audience. Think about the you that applied for that job even though you were under-qualified, or the you that stood up for someone or something even though it wasn’t a popular opinion. Think about all those moments when you were scared, but did it anyway and it was invigorating as hell! Couldn’t we stand to do that more? I think we can. And I think the consequences aren’t nearly as scary and real as we tell ourselves.
I think that the person we are on vacation is closer to who we actually are (provided you don’t give in to total debauchery) than the version of ourselves that lives in so-called “reality”. I truly believe we are meant to live fuller and be happier than we seem to allow ourselves to be, and going on a holiday serves as a reminder of how it could be and shows us our potential if we can just let go of the reins a little and stop restricting ourselves so much. So let go, stop making excuses and say YES. One day when you are old and looking back over your life, you will thank yourself for getting out of your own way.
“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.” ― Marcel Proust
PHOTOGRAPHY BY: Gregory Chomichuk (my main squeeze!) Note: photos were shot on an iPhone6 and are un-edited.
STYLING BY: Tara Cole-McCaffrey, Patron of Dreams
MAKEUP: Eye shadow (Jungle Babes Collection) Provided by Dandizette Cosmetics
FASHION: Lennard Taylor custom hand-painted jeans, Gracetta Fashion Designs; bikini, monokini, tank top, fringe bikini top, men’s baseball shirt, and bathing suit cover-up. Booties are Coconuts by Matisse from Rooster.
SWEET ASS CAR: Shout out to my Father in Law for lending us his sweet ride, a 1983 Excalibur. Perfect for desert adventures!