“The most authentic thing about us is our capacity to create, to overcome, to endure, to transform, to love and to be greater than our suffering.” – Ben Okri
“When you can imagine, you begin to create and when you begin to create you realize that you can create a world that you prefer to live in, rather than a world that you’re suffering in.” – Ben Okri
“Reach for the best feeling thought you have access too.” -Abraham Hicks
Mid-January. It’s still dark out by 5 p.m. The holidays are over, bank accounts are looking dismal, the sugar detox is real, and statistics show that most people have already given up on their New Year’s resolutions a week ago. Enter Blue Monday, the third Monday in January, reported to be the most depressing day of the year. I’m not gonna lie, it can be very challenging to keep your chin up and keep on trucking optimistically when so many people around you are suffering and struggling to see the point of it all. It can leave you having to dig deep to find the motivation to power on. So, what do we do about it? Well, for starters, let’s not fall for the oldest mistake in the proverbial book. If you are feeling a little lower than usual, now is not the time to shoot for the stars and make unrealistic plans and demands on yourself. You know I’m all about dreaming big and believing in your ability to live your dream life, but I have lived long enough to know that shooting too high, when you are feeling too low, is a recipe for failure and can knock you back even further than where you started from. I think about my emotions like a staircase. Each step up is a small improvement in how I feel. The bottom step is hopelessness. It’s where depression resides. You may currently be on the third step, where frustration is rampant, but remember, it is a whole lot better than hopelessness. So, how do I climb the staircase? Well, firstly, I realize that I can’t jump from the bottom step to the top. Its just not possible, physically, or emotionally. But, I can focus on the things that are working and the little things that make me feel good, like the warm glow of a scented candle, a really great cup of coffee, or how lovely the light is in the morning through my front window, and suddenly, my gratitude has carried me up a few steps. If you treat it as a daily practice to notice the good stuff, then before you know it, you have reached the step that has you revelling in hope and optimism. From here, you can see the top and now is the time to dream big and get specific about the things you want. If you can get up enough inspiration and emotional will, you may even be able to launch yourself up the last few steps to the top, where all your dreams reside. Here’s the catch though, no one stays at the top of the staircase forever. The truth is, you’d get bored there. It’s in our nature to want to be working toward something, to want to improve and to overcome adversity. It’s in our DNA. It’s part of being human. From one day to the next, we climb up and down the staircase of life through many trials and tribulations. Sometimes we get stuck for longer than we’d like on a particular step, or continually return to one on the regular. If this is happening to you, chances are, you have something to learn from it, and you’ll keep returning to that step until you do. The thing to remember is that it is in our power to climb or not climb. We have the capacity to look around us right now in this very moment, find things to be grateful for, and start the process of ascension, no matter where you are on the staircase of life.
PHOTOGRAPHY BY: Michael Sanders, Electric Monk Media
STYLING, HAIR & MAKEUP BY: Tara Cole-McCaffrey, Patron of Dreams. Hair cut and colour by Kitty of Berns and Black.
NEW FASHION: Flared pants by H&M, Velvet booties from Hudson’s Bay, Velvet jacket from Winners.
THRIFTED FASHION: Sunglasses, satin Chinese-inspired blouse, scarf.
VINTAGE FASHION: Embroidered hat.