Oh! joy for he who has escaped from this world of perfumes and color! For beyond these colors and these perfumes, these are other colors in the heart and the soul.
Today is April 5th and it snowed. Giant floating fluffy white snowflakes. A thick white blanket covered the entire city within a couple of hours. Where I’m from this is not an uncommon occurrence this time of year. In fact, it’s quite common. Yet it still elicits an intense reaction from even those of us who have lived here our entire lives. You can actually feel the tension in the city. It’s tangible. The reactions range from mild irritation, to overwhelming frustration, to absolute disgust and anger.
Why do we do this to ourselves?! It is a choice after all. Not the snow, although you can move if you hate it, but how we choose to feel about it. How we choose to see things and react to them is one of our most valuable abilities. I would go as far as to say that how we choose to react to our current reality is possibly the most important factor in how happy our life will be! Yet, we are so trained as a society to be reactionary to our current situation or surroundings like everything is happening to us and we are victims of some unknown force that is trying to keep us down and make us miserable. Are we crazy? What an insane way to go through life? As much as our 5 senses are a gift, which allow us different ways to experience our current reality, they can also be our downfall! 2 days ago, I was on vacation in Phoenix, Arizona. It was hot and sunny, the air was filled with the smell of newly blooming desert flowers and I spent most of my time listening to my kids laughing and splashing in the pool. Everything I ate tasted better there. It was heaven. Today, it’s cold and wet, there is no smell because everything is frozen, and I heard so many people complaining about the weather it was baffling. I don’t even remember what I ate today. But, today is only today. A drop in the bucket of a lifetime, and tomorrow will have something new to offer. What if I don’t particularly like what tomorrow has to offer, am I going to complain tomorrow too?! How long will this go on? Maybe it will continue until I lighten up enough that something I do particularly like happens. Then will I be happy? Do you see where I’m going with this? If we are so dependent on the circumstances of our life to decide how we are going to feel about our life, we are essentially choosing to be victims of life. How sad is that? Shouldn’t we be deciding for ourselves how our life is going to be? I don’t mean choosing each experience and circumstance. I mean how we choose to feel about each experience and circumstance that comes our way. I do believe we have much more ability to choose our reality than we are currently tapped into…but that’s another blog post!
Why not look at your life as a gift. Possibly the greatest gift you have ever been given! Look at each moment with wonder, like a child. Have you ever seen a group of kids sitting around and bitching about the weather? No! It snowed in April, so they built a snowman and told everyone they saw about it with complete joy and exuberance! When did we start using our senses to decide if we like things or not, instead of just experiencing things? It’s just black or white. Good or bad. Right or wrong. And we feel the need to share each harsh opinion with every single person we encounter! Why can’t we just observe, and if we don’t like it, move on without reaction. Why must we waste so much energy on what we don’t like, when we can turn our attention to the things that make our hearts sing.
So, you don’t like snow in April, me neither, but I’m not about to waste my whole day focusing on it. Sometimes, if you don’t like what you are looking at, you should look at it differently and suddenly it becomes something different. In the absence of colour and smell and warmth, you can create your own. When was the last time you looked at the world through a kaleidoscope? Snow and ice as far as the eye can see, until you look through a different lens and suddenly everything is magic! The beautiful thing is, you don’t need a kaleidoscope to do this, you just need your heart, your soul and your imagination which you carry with you at all times. It works the same, but the effects are even more magical because there are no limits!
“You can get to where you want to be from wherever you are—but you must stop spending so much time noticing and talking about what you do not like about where you are.”
― Esther Hicks
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer
PHOTOGRAPHY BY: Gregory Chomichuk
CURRENT FASHION: Velvet bellbottoms from Lenni the Label
THRIFTED: Boots, dress, coat, scarf, vest, arm warmers and hat. Special thanks to my son’s pre-school teacher Mrs. May for snagging this amazing wrap-skirt for me before it was donated. It will be worn with love!
*Thank you to my sons for lending me your kaleidoscope and reminding me daily that I have one of my own with me at all times.*