“Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life.”
“You are joy, looking for a way to express. It’s not just that your purpose is joy, it is that you are joy. You are love and joy and freedom and clarity expressing. Energy—frolicking and eager—that’s who you are.” – Abraham
The truth is, I’ve never been one to put too much emphasis on New Years, until last year. My Grandfather had suddenly passed away before Christmas, and on New Year’s Eve, my Husband’s Mom was lying in Palliative care approaching the end of her life. I was picking up some last-minute groceries to help prepare a big dinner with his family to ring in the new year. It was heart-wrenching and awful. My Husband had been spending every spare moment over the last month with his Parents, which meant I had been doing a lot of single parenting of our 2 small boys over the holidays and general support wherever I could. I was exhausted and sad and lonely. I dug down deep inside myself to muster the gumption for an exceptionally heavy night. I looked at my sons, virtually untouched by all the suffering going on around them and I decided that tonight, I would completely surrender to them and go with their flow. I just didn’t have the energy to resist their whims. If it meant we arrived late and without the groceries we needed, so be it. We had bigger issues to deal with after all. And then, the most miraculous thing happened! We skipped in the isles, rode around too fast on the grocery cart, laughed, sang, and played I spy. We were too loud and obnoxiously happy. We had ended up with way more than we needed in our cart, and I didn’t care. When we got to the check out, we continued our sillyness. I giggled along with them like a third child, instead of their Mother, and I revelled in their beautiful innocence. I let their joy infect me. And then another miraculous thing happened! An older gentleman in line in front of us told me that he would like to buy our groceries for us. At first I was taken aback and said no thank you, we’re ok. Then he explained that he had been watching us throughout the grocery store and that my children were beautiful and happy and we were obviously a very tight loving family. Then he explained that he never had kids and that he would likely never have them and it would make his New Years if we would accept his gift. I was overcome! This man had absolutely no idea how difficult my last couple of months had been and what we would be facing in the month to come. He only saw us in that moment in time while we were full of wonder and joy and life was abundant, and like magic, we immediately drew more abundance to ourselves. We thanked him graciously and as we were leaving, he passed me some chocolates he had bought at check-out for the kids, but wanted to check with me first to see if the kids could have them. What he didn’t know was that my youngest son has a nut allergy, and somehow, he had purchased the only thing available that was nut-free. The kids, as you can imagine, were ecstatic. So much joy and enthusiasm for such a small thing. Oh to be a child!
When we arrived for New Years with the family, I felt re-born. A renewed sense of meaning and hopefulness for the future. When I re-counted our story, everybody cried. One small gesture from one man, was immensely powerful and impacted an entire extended family at a very difficult time in our lives. It truly is the little things that count.
That experience reminded me about the meaning of abundance. It isn’t about money or material things. While those things are nice to have, they can not be yours when you are feeling empty and ungrateful, and can not find joy in all that you already have. It’s about the way you choose to feel at any given moment in your life. Feeling abundant is about revelling in the mundane. It’s about living life full of joy and wonder like a child. Frolicking and playing and laughing and not taking it all so seriously.
So, this is my wish for 2016! To live a life of abundance and watch the magic unfold. I want to be silly, and laugh, and go with the flow. I want to look at the world through the eyes of a child and experience the wonderment of it all. I want to renew my vitality by not acting my age! I want to be carefree and drink champagne and celebrate everything! I want to live abundance!
Photography by: Michael Sanders, Electric Monk Media
Styling, hair and makeup by: Tara Cole-McCaffrey, Patron of Dreams
On Trend/Current Fashion: Glory bells in rust velvet (currently on SALE) and Rumi rust velvet jacket (currently on SALE) by LENNI the label (from their Burning Gold collection), sparkly jersey knit sweater by H&M, necklace (Vegas) by Mirina Collections (use code “tara” and receive 20% off of any purchase on their website).
Vintage: antique Tibetan hat, my Grandma’s fur coat.
Thrift: platform boots, pearl and rhinestone earrings and rings.